5 reasons why some young Christian women are not ready for godly marriages.

56
Beloved, I cannot guarantee you a magic potion to landing a fancy Disney marriage, but I can guarantee you wisdom to not landing a horrible one. And because godly marriages are miles better than Disney fantasies, here are five reasons why some young Christian women are not ready for godly relationships that lead to thriving marriages.
  1. Speaking ill of marriage and relationships

What do you reckon when you hear a born-again Christian woman state “All men are dogs.”? When I hear a lady who is born again speak ill of relationships and marriage, I worry. Why? Because if you remain true to the Scriptures, you will see that nothing in the Kingdom of God works outside relationships. Christ is our groom and we are his bride. Relationship. God is our father. Relationship. The Holy Spirit is our helper. Relationship. Angels are our ministers. Relationship. Fellow believers are siblings. Relationship. We were made for relationships! In fact, God began our world’s creation functioning in relationships, “Let us make man in our own image.” Young women in the Body of Christ must have different mindsets about relationships, unlike the world.

John Piper once said this very profound statement: “The wonder of marriage is woven into the wonder of the gospel of the cross of Christ, and the message of the cross is foolishness to the natural man, and so the meaning of marriage is foolishness to the natural man.”

John Piper is right. 1 Corinthians 1:18 tells us that the gospel is foolishness to the world. And Ephesians 5:25 parallels the very same gospel to a marriage relationship between a man and a woman. So when the reaction of the natural woman (not born-again) and the saved woman (born-again) concerning marriage and relationships are the same, there is more than sufficient reason to worry about the latter’s maturity. In the Kingdom of Darkness, everything works in the opposite- against relationships. The devil is your enemy, the demons are your tempters, friends are for benefits, family is for convenience and relationships are for self-actualization. Followers of Jesus who speak ill of relationships only prove that they are not ready for the godly marriages they desire. So, is the solution to stop speaking ill of marriages? No. You need to trace the root of the problem. Speech is a product of belief. Belief is a product of conviction. Conviction is a product of acquired information accepted to be true. What you speak reveals what you believe. And what you believe reveals what you are convinced of. What you are convinced of reveals the information you have imbibed and thought to be true. Speaking ill is a symptom; the real disease is the lies that the woman has believed about marriage and relationships. Here are some lies that Christian women need to replace with truth from the Scriptures.

Deception from the World Scriptural Antidote if you are born again
My parents had a difficult marriage so that means I will have a difficult one too. Ezekiel 18:20 says “The person who sins is the one who will die. The child will not be punished for the parent’s sins, and the parent will not be punished for the child’s sins. Righteous people will be rewarded for their own righteous behaviour, and   wicked people will be punished for their own wickedness.”
I  never had a godly father figure so that means I will struggle relating with men in marriage You have a father in heaven and through Jesus Christ he will sanctify you daily to become relatable to men. Jesus even affirmed the superiority of our heavenly father in Mathew 23:9 “And call no man your father on earth, for you have one Father, who is in heaven.” 
No one in my family history has had a working marriage so the curse of the family is upon me. Galatians 3:13 says “Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: “Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.”  In Christ, you can do all things, even thrive in marriage, because he strengthens you.
There are no good men left. God always has a remnant in every generation, saved by his Grace and mercy- include marriageable men

What other deceptive philosophies have you adopted?

  1. Fearfully holding onto a wrong relationship

The second reason why young Christian women are not ready for godly relationships that lead to thriving marriages is fearfully holding onto wrong relationships. Young Christian women must take bold moves and not participate in relationships without direction that do not glorify God. You probably know what I’m talking about. He does not take initiative, the relationship is killing your walk with God, he has no intention of marriage, you are constantly fighting, you do not honour sexual purity and the marriage bed (Hebrews 13:4), he does not lead and guide you spiritually and you are afraid to leave. Many born-again women that I have talked to, who are in such situations, give the following reasons:

  • What will my family think?
  • I’ve invested too much time with him in this relationship.
  • I don’t think I will love again
  • My biological clock is ticking
  • He is better than most men
  • He only hit me once
  • I committed to date till marriage
  • I will convert him into a Christian.
  • He will change when we get married.

 Beloved, allow me to respond to all these in brief:

Excuse The truth
What will my family think? You will not marry your family.
I’ve invested too much time with him in this relationship God is the author of time. He can redeem in one month what was invested in three years.
I don’t think I will love again You can love again and you will love again. Because the Spirit of God is in you, Beloved, and God is Love (1 John 4:8)
My biological clock is ticking God’s timing is more accurate than your biological clock. Ecclesiastes 3:11, “He has made everything beautiful in its time.” Stop comparing your life to others.
He is better than most men Your man is not the standard; Christ is.
He only hit me once Violence is not of love. If he hit you once nothing says he won’t do it again.
I committed to date till marriage Ending a dating relationship is not sinful because it is not a divorce.
I will convert him into a Christian. You cannot change the eternal state of anyone. Salvation is God’s work, not man’s work.
He will change when we get married. Unless you have the gift of prophecy, I am betting heavily against this one.

God expects wisdom from you in your dating life. And that wisdom may mean ending a relationship that does not glorify God and that has no direction. You may fear disappointing many people who knew you were dating but realize that disappointing others is a small cost to pay for the benefit of a future godly marriage.

  1. Holding onto past hurt

Another reason why young Christian women are not ready for godly relationships that lead to thriving marriages is holding onto past hurt.  Godly men, just like many other men, often get repelled by women who hold onto baggage and self pity. This is not to belittle your pain, Beloved, but rather to encourage you to stop living in it and to give your baggage to Christ for he cares for you. I read a devastating story of a woman who was kidnapped and raped on her wedding day. Later, after finally getting married, her husband died and the community blamed her. The situation only grew worse but this woman held onto Christ and rose from the pain in her life. She even remarried and she now has a thriving marriage and ministry with an admirable godly man. If you have been through something similar, let that short story encourage you that your life is not over. The same God that worked in her is the same God at work in your life. If you have not been through half of that, beloved, do you see how holding onto pain can be dead-weight? The lady in question trusted in Christ and is encouraging many more hurting women through her ministry. Allow Christ to take the pain of the past. Cast all your cares on him, for he cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).

  1. Poor spiritual growth

The fourth reason why young Christian women are not ready for godly relationships that lead to thriving marriages is poor spiritual growth. Meredith MacInnis, a friend of mine, commented on one of my recent Facebook posts, “We all have this longing for solid and healthy marriages deep down because we are made in the image of God, and he wants that for us …” Her statement struck me! How profound! How true! The yearn for good marriages comes from our design- the image of God. And since that is true, it only makes sense that the ultimate love doctor is God Almighty. Waturi and I have a principle for any Christian who is about to get into a relationship:  Run so fast towards God, if anyone keeps up, introduce yourself. In the pursuit of Christlikeness, all other things (even a good marriage) shall be added unto us (Matthew 6:33). Perhaps you have been chasing men harder than you have been chasing God, Beloved. The danger of pursuing anything more that God is idolatry. Humans easily make idols out of their pursuits. It is good for young Christian women to desire marriage. But it is better for them to desire godliness, because with this, the right attractions will happen. Jesus Christ is the greatest man you will ever have, Beloved. After you die, there will be no man-woman marriage in heaven, but you will have Christ as your Lord and groom for eternity. Let Christ be the man who graciously steps aside in the dance when the godly man arrives. Since marriage is only on earth, you may as well do it right and enjoy it fully. Pursue godliness and grow spiritually, Beloved. How can a godly woman grow spiritually?

  • Hear the Word (See Romans 10:7. From other mature men and women of God e.g. podcasts, recorded sermons)
  • Read the Word (See Revelation 1:3. get a personal encounter of God speaking by reading what the Bible says)
  • Study the Word (See Acts 17:11. Researching what I read and verifying its veracity and appropriate use.)
  • Memorise the Word (See Psalm 119:9-11. Committing to memory what I study so that I have a ready word to share to anyone in need and a stocked arsenal against temptation and false doctrine.)
  • Meditate on the Word (See Joshua 1:8.Musing about the words of scripture that I have memorized and allowing the Holy Spirit to use them to search my life)
  • Practising the Word. (See John 13:17. Doing what I learn. God wants us not only to appear changed on the outside but to actually change on the inside.)
  1. Worldliness

The fifth reason why young Christian women are not ready for godly relationships that lead to thriving marriages is worldliness. I have met them. They email me frequently. When you prod and get to the bottom of things, you see the root cause. Worldliness. Worldliness is the young Christian woman reading or watching 50 Shades of Grey despite hearing what the reviews say. Worldliness is the young Christian woman flirting with a man to see how far he can go. Worldliness is the young Christian woman leading worship on Sunday morning and streaming erotic videos on YouTube on Monday. Worldliness is the young Christian indulging in flippant comedy that mocks virtue and godliness. Worldliness is the young Christian woman forgetting the high cost of her salvation on the cross and the precious worth of her soul. Worldliness is the young Christian woman who complains about a rough relationship with God but still spends time with carnal friends. A young Christian married woman wrote this to me on one of my posts in March 2015: “ I used to watch Scandal so faithfully till the Lord condemned so much. I was a young bride watching a series that made a mistress and a married man look like they had more chemistry than with the wife. This made me rethink Scandal and many other movies in fact now I rarely watch any movie or even TV.” Worldliness, Beloved, as much as you may hate me for saying it, is foolish. It’s not legalism, it is wisdom. A professing Christian woman in a university in Kenya revealed this to a friend of mine: She stated that the man she marries must have lots of money before anything else. She added that it didn’t matter if he was walking with God or not because her first priority was a man that earned more money than she did. She believes that if they have enough money, everything else will play out well. When we hear such things at play in the life of a young professing Christian woman, it probably bespeaks two things:

  1. She is not truly born again.

Going to church and being affiliated to Christianity does not make you a believer. Jesus clearly lays the true picture of being a follower? Do you have a personal relationship with him characterized by obedience? 2 Corinthians 13:5 says to this young woman “Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you–unless, of course, you fail the test?” 

1 John 2:15-16 also says to her “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.”

  1. She has traded the treasure of salvation for worldly treasure 

Revelation 3:15-20 says to this young woman “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth. You say, ‘I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.’ But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked. I counsel you to buy from me gold refined in the fire, so you can become rich; and white clothes to wear, so you can cover your shameful nakedness; and salve to put on your eyes, so you can see. Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent. Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me.”

If a young born again woman is worldly, how can she crave the blessing of Ephesians 5:25, of a husband that loves her as Christ loves the Church? Should she meet that marriageable man of God (and they are there in plenty), he would have nothing to do with her. For what do a pretty face and a killer smile mean in heaven’s economy if the Kingdom of God is not advancing? Beloved, if you are in the cloud of worldliness, the cry from the Saviour in Revelation 3 is “So be earnest, and repent.” Christ will come for a pure bride, not a worldly one. And if Christ’s choice is reflective of a godly man’s choice for a wife, you win twice when he spots you! Remember Beloved, all the worldliness cannot drown the grace Christ gives you- grace is pardon and reward (Ephesians 2:8-9) but it is also power over worldliness (Titus 2:11-12). As the famous quote truthfully states, “All the water in the world, no matter how hard it tries, can never sink a ship unless it gets inside. All the evil influence of the world, no matter how hard it tries, can never sink a Christian’s soul unless it gets inside. Therefore, guard your heart with all diligence.”

Comments

Ernest Wamboye is a disciple of Jesus Christ, a husband, a father, an author and a speaker. He has been married to the lovely Waturi since September 2012. They have a passion for youth ministry. Together they minister to young adults on the gospel and pre-marital relationships. Ernest has authored two books, The Human Temple, a novel, and Lust and the City- a guide on sexual purity.

Discussion56 Comments

  1. Hi Ernest !!!! great read for all the young christian women, very informative !!!. Fear of Being alone could it be a reason as to why young christian women are unprepared for Godly Marriage?
    For example you see your friends getting married and you feel the pressure to get married to anyone even if they are unbelievers …

  2. You have just said it very well …. thank you for this truth, especially Number 4. God Bless,… speaking of which, if I'd like to quote something from here, how would I go about it so that it doesn't look like I "stole" it? Say like you're writing a term paper and you want to write what you've said as a reference… please help…

    Thanks.

    • Amen Sharleen! Thanks for reading. When referencing from the blog, just use the APA citation for websites. Here is a link to help you with that: http://www.apastyle.org/learn/quick-guide-on-references.aspx

      The site says this:

      For a passing reference to a website in text, the URL is sufficient; no reference list entry is needed.
      Gussie Fink-Nottle has set up a discussion forum for newt fanciers (http://gfnnfg.livejournal.com/).
      However, when you are citing a particular document or piece of information from a website, include both a reference list entry and an in-text citation. The key to creating the reference list entry is to determine the type of content on the web page. Basically, provide the following four pieces of information:
      Author, A. (date). Title of document [Format description]. Retrieved from http://xxxxxxxxx
      The in-text citation includes the author and date (Author, date), as with any other APA Style citation.

  3. Thank you for posting this God bless you in Abundance brother Ernest and Waturi. I will forever be grateful to my good friend who recommended your blog. this is very close to my heart because God dealt with me in the area of relationships. in my walk as a single born again woman I have realized that compromise is very easy rather than walking in righteousness. Its very easy to excuse sin and justify it rather than stand for righteousness and godliness. actually there is a place of value..when something is devalued no one sees the essence of appreciating it for instance a devalued currency cannot be appreciated as its of no use. the main thing God dealt with me is the place of value. thing is where you draw your value determines your thought process so that if you do not value yourself you end up being devalued, the source of value is Christ for in His kingdom we have all things we require! God wants us to see just how precious and valuable we are to Him. I love psalms 139;17 and 18;How precious to me are your thoughts,[a] God!
    How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them,
    they would outnumber the grains of sand..imagine that God thinks of me and you..that blows my mind..so God addresess value and makes us see ourselves in His image and thoughts of us then we can raise the standard
    compromise is also as a result of getting tired of waiting on God. you see as a single person you are waiting on God for a godly spouse in the meantime you meet all kinds of people. the things of God require grace and faith to work! however sometimes people feel God is taking so long..I have felt that at some point..that God is taking long until I realized Isaiah 45;9 Woe to those who quarrel with their Maker,
    those who are nothing but potsherds among the potsherds on the ground.
    Does the clay say to the potter,
    ‘What are you making?’
    Does your work say,
    ‘The potter has no hands’ so thats it God is God the author ot time
    there are standards of this world brother Ernest for instance getting married by a certain age.. you see we are commanded not to be conformed to the standards of the world Rom 12:1 ans 2. I love what you have said about being Luke warm we need to stand in righteousness and holiness not to conform. also its so true about God's kingdom not lacking. He has more than enough for us…God is not a synic seated waiting for people to mess up..He is a loving father, always making sure we are watched over and He loves us with an everlasting love… I conclude by saying ; Philipians 3:7 to 9.But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in[a] Christ—the righteousness that comes from God on the basis of faith. Godbless you Bro Ernest I am encouraged

  4. I am glad I stumbled upon this article. I am recently single, having just ended a rather violent relatuonship. I am starting anew and with all this, I'll have a diffetent view to relationships. Thank you and I am encouraged. Be blessed.

  5. very true but lets also not be so judgmental on the single young ladies like it is a sin. Marriage is Gods design and is good but lets not make it an idol. probably my comments are not the best for this blog and I may end up getting a lot of back clash and scripture being thrown at me . There are single people who have no issues and are single because God planned their lives that way and they are doing exploits for God and it is all good. Being single is not a disease, it does not mean you have issues. it is just a status like any other and it is also of God.

    • Beloved, no need to fear backlash. Scripture is not for that purpose but for love. Single-hood is definitely a good thing. Even Paul the apostle affirms it. I think you may have misinterpreted a lot that I wrote. I am not saying single-hood is a sin and neither am I (or anybody in the comments so far) judging single ladies. I think you have taken the reading out of context and misinterpreted the message to think that single-hood is bad. I urge you to read through and see that nowhere in the blog have I insinuated that claim. In fact, my wife and I encourage single people to fully utilize their single-hood and serve God. We don’t state (and neither have I in this blog) that single-hood is bad. The read is for people who want to get married, but that does not mean that it is against single-hood. Blessings, beloved.

  6. I think that sometimes the church keeps women single. Well, not like the church literally, but some ideologies which the church chooses to ingrain in young women's minds and men alike. I have seen a lot of judgement among young adult church circles. Women are expecting a certain kind of man (Saved, good job, eloquent, socially established, financially established, prayerful, serving God etc) and men are expecting a certain kind of woman (saved, neat, well spoken, disciplined, beautiful, correct body size, serving in church, socially established etc)

    Even though the above lists are valid, we sometimes forget that humans are a working progress. Christian men (especially in church circles) particularly can be very judgmental of certain types of women forgetting that "God may be working on her, she may not fir thee model of your perfect man or woman, but God is working on her" Judging a woman simply because she is loud, chooses to air her opinions boldly, laughs loudly in public or dresses in a particular manner, is not godly either. Ernest you have stated that a lot of marriageable men exist but a woman will not find them if they dont get themselves together. I just think that this point is not always valid.

    Sometimes, for a hurting woman, meeting the Godly Man may be the key to her restoration. You do not always have to be completely whole to find the "Right one" I have seen it several times. God called us to be messengers of love, therefore, dont right out a package because you simply dismissed the wrappers without opening the box. God bless you.

    • People indeed are work in progress. If you've read any of my previous blogs, I encourage men and women not to look for perfection. To prove that, here is one blog: http://ernestwamboye.blogspot.com/2014/08/dont-give-up-on-love.html. It talks about men and women who only look for perfection in their partners and end up being so critical and choosy. At no pint does this blog advcate for perfection. When I talk about getting oneself together, I am simply referring to the necessary growth that is needed in a Christian. Not perfection. Growth. To look for perfection is a mate is futile and I have spoken about that several times. Growth is necessary, Beloved. Many Christians use the phrase "I am a work in progress" to justify sinful attitudes and poor spiritual growth. When challenged and corrected to grow, the "I'm human" or "I'm a work in progress" card is always lifted. Our generation refuses rebuke and correction, and this is not Christlike. Paul the Apostle would rebuke our generation a lot. I sense your may be coming from a point of misunderstanding my teaching. This is not to advocate for perfectionism, Beloved. Growth in the Christian faith is necessary. And just so you know that the idea of growth doesn't only target women, read my previous blogs too.

  7. Thanks brother Ernest, your timeless wisdom in marriage and relationships has positively influenced my courtship. My fiancee and I thought of inviting you to our wedding as a way to appreciate your spiritual contribution in our lives. I will keep in touch for the same. God bless you and give you more wisdom and insights to keep propagating His desires in the hearts of multitudes.

  8. Hey Ernest, this is wonderful post, filled with much needed truth. I love your response to this "He will change when we get married" Good one! I also remind ladies that once they marry a guy that hasn't made a true decision for the Lord, the guy will still have to make that decision for the Lord (the one he was supposed to make earlier) but the difference is that they will now be tagging along for the ride – and it will NOT be nice ride.

  9. May your wisdom increase more and more brother, you will never know the lives you have changed by sharing and taking time to enrich the lives of others, even when they are offended it means you have said something which is very close to home, we need to stop hearing these candy coated messages. This is truth , form God's very word and thus it is freeing John 8:32. May the living God increase you and strengthen you, never grow weary of this well doing.

    A stranger with a changed heart.

  10. True! I attest that the five reasons are so true in addition to some of the comments I've read here. I'm a 29 yrs old christian God-fearing lady and feeling so confused as I've messed up my life terribly. At 17 years of age God called me to go out everywhere and tell people about Jesus. However, I thought it couldn't be so I persued a line of business. At 20 while in uni, and serving as an usher in church I was sexually active with different men,and while in a secret relationship with my friend's x I became pregnant. My parents and I couldn't take it so I aborted. The same year i dedicated my life to God. Sadly at 23 while abroad I became sexually active again with different men. On coming back home I turned back to God and was very concious of the calling God had impressed on me. So I became more active in ministry. Sadly a year ago now, I became sexually active with a married pastor and lecturer. Many are times I have called it quits but keep returning to this evil and wickedness. Today now just about only a week now I haven't been with the man and I don't want to go back. So anyway my writing is not to seek solade for I know I don't deserve it neither is it to seek being judged for I know Christ is the judge and punishment awaits me for no sin goes unpunished esp immorality. But I'm now very cautious to obey God and seeking His mercy is not easy esp when you know ur sin. But I do want to encourage young single faithful gals to keep on because that pleases God and he delights in you. He will surely reward you. As for my kind of life it sucks. Its full of guilt, pains, bitterness, envy, and all the bad associated with these. Only for God's forgiveness and Grace that I am still healing and have had the courage to write. Nevertheless be faithful as God is faithful and Christ demonstrated for us as God's children.
    Bless you Ernest and your wife for making it possible for me to write on this platform. God keep you and your marriage for each other.

    • Wow! Such a powerful testimony! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story to encourage others. If you'd like some help in this walk, please email me and I will connect you with my wife. My email is ernest.wakhusama@gmail.com

      Also be encouraged that 1st John 1:9 says "if we confess our sins he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us of all unrighteousness." Your story is not over> In Christ Jesus you have redemption. In Christ Jesus you have a chance to stand again and be free from the pain of guilt and past sin. Like the woman in John 8, he will heal you, Beloved. He will restore you. he will make you new. he will make you clean. In Christ, there is no condemnation.Do contact me and I will link you up.

  11. God bless you my bro for a wonderful message n advice, u have opened my mind, am really humbled, uv toked about the relationships, i will love to read about marriage itself, hell lies in our current marriages, large percentage of couples are unhappy in their marriages, whats the way forward when divorce is condemned in Christianity?

  12. I feel that it is selfish to continuously glean from your wise blogs and not once say thank you. So here i am, saying asanti sana for allowing God to use you to change lives. I am born again, but reading your posts had inspired me to live out Romans 12:1-2. This blog, this work you're doing, inspired me to resolve to let God reprogram my mind in a manner of speaking. In my choice of entertainment and especially in my view of relationships. 30 minutes of bible study and prayer daily versus 3 hours of TV (scandal included) that scoffs at godliness.. the math is simple. My thinking and opinions are more heavily influenced by TV than the bible truths. And i would find myself scoffing at holiness together with the world. This blog has been and is instrumental in my "reprogramming".
    So..Thank you for not conforming and letting God use you.
    God bless you with more wisdom Ernest!!!
    And God bless your marriage. And your readers too!☺

  13. Wow, talk of the Word of God piercing deep inside my heart!, I am blessed and enlightened i realized more often i compromise on what i tend to watch, more so movies, i get so bold asking at the movie guy to give me drama movies instead of the Christian based which are few, but i realized i have a choice to not watch,mmh its called choices, may God continue using you to enlighten other people.

    http://www.thecherriesvineyard.wordpress.com

  14. Wow. Wow. Wow… I wouldn't add or remove anything to what you've written. We do indeed need to re evaluate ourselves and ponder whether we are true Christians or not. Another test that may arise in this foretold suffering is when God will ask us to leave these very places where falsehood is preached; we may come to a point where the Truth will convict whatever false beliefs we may have held on to and the test is whether or not we will yield to the Will of God, or, in pride cling onto our mistaken beliefs, however sincere or convinced of them we may be. It is in omnipotent love that God calls us out of Babylon, that we be not partakers of her plagues (REV 14). Thank you for making that altar call to the masses. God will reward you greatly. God's grace be with you my brother.

  15. Wow. Wow. Wow… I wouldn't add or remove anything to what you've written. We do indeed need to re evaluate ourselves and ponder whether we are true Christians or not. Another test that may arise in this foretold suffering is when God will ask us to leave these very places where falsehood is preached; we may come to a point where the Truth will convict whatever false beliefs we may have held on to and the test is whether or not we will yield to the Will of God, or, in pride cling onto our mistaken beliefs, however sincere or convinced of them we may be. It is in omnipotent love that God calls us out of Babylon, that we be not partakers of her plagues (REV 14). Thank you for making that altar call to the masses. God will reward you greatly. God's grace be with you my brother.

  16. Thanks Ernest for your sharing. What I like best with your sharing is that God's word is exalted above good human quotes and ideas, because beloved, it is only the Word that can ever change a man into the likeness of Christ for we are born of the Word. I stand in prayer with all young single ladies desiring to one day be married, that we will live up to the call of God over our lives and that is the one of holiness. The words of David are as real today as when he first spoke them through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit: "How can a young man keep his way pure? By hiding your word in his heart…Your word have I hidden in my heart that I might not sin against you." (Psalm 119:9-11).

    The Lord bless you the Wamboye's keep encouraging and stirring many in the faith even as we see the day of the Lord drawing nigh.

  17. thank you Ernest.
    i think another reason would be the fact that us women are so emotionally preoccupied with other men, that our hearts are unavailable.
    We look for validation from men who continually make us feel important/wanted and as a result we become dependent on them for our emotional needs,to the point we get addicted to the chats and calls etc as well as social media.

    i am forever grateful that God continues to teach us new things each day through you and daily fellowships we have with Him.

  18. "Excuse:He is better than most men. Truth:Your man is not the standard; Christ is."..This statement has hit home for me. Thanks Ernest, God bless you…

Leave A Reply