As a man living in the 21st Century, pledge from now henceforth to be a man who loves and treats his lady as a valued co-heir of the kingdom of Christ.


I will be her friend at all times before being her boy-friend/fiancé/husband. I will invest my time, energy and resources for a relationship of mutual love between us. I will respect her and her family. I will forgive her when
she wrongs me. I will cultivate our friendship through mutual activities that will make us friends.


I will pursue her and I will demonstrate affection to her through hugs, and words of affirmation. I will value her and tell her she is beautiful as often as I can. I will not embarrass her, abuse her, look down on her or use my hands to strike her.


I will not go silent on her. I will communicate with her by talking with her and not talking at her. I will not harbour anger, resentment or malice against her. I will communicate with my words to express hurt and will use them wisely not to discourage her. I will speak in love in times of pain and in times of joy. I will not be cold, angry and indifferent towards her. I will make time to hear her out and fan into flame the dreams she has in life.


I will give more than receive based on the words of Christ himself  “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” I will invest my time  in her and make her a happy woman. I will invest my money and treasures in her, the love of my life.


I will trust her and trust her intuition. I will not impose my will but will lead whilst involving her.


I will lead by example by being under the authority of Christ and submitting to Him. I will take my walk with God seriously by committing to a church and devoting my service in the gifting that I have. Through prayer, reading and studying of the word, fellowship and sharing of the word with others, will I lead by example. I will encourage and challenge her spiritually to grow toward being a good and faithful servant of the Lord Jesus. I will encourage her to love the Lord more than she loves me. I will invest in her spiritual life through prayer, fellowship and buying any spiritual material that will enable her to grow.


I will respect her body and treat it with absolute purity. I will not seduce her, caress her, kiss her or touch her in any sexual way until the night of our marriage. Until the minister says “You may now kiss the bride” I will not use my lips to lure her into sin. I will make her sexual purity my priority by avoiding secluded places that will lead us to fall into temptation. I will control my sexual drive and wait for the marriage bed as a show of love through patience.


I will be faithful to her at all times. I will cut strings that draw me to old flames of girlfriends. I will ward off any other girls that may pose a threat to the relationship or that may make her feel insecure. I will affirm her and let her know she’s the only one for me. I will walk with integrity and self-control to have my eyes for her alone. I will resist the urge to lust after other women that I see in my school, workplace or everyday life. I will do away completely with any form of medium that draws my eyes to other women lustfully i.e. certain television programmes, magazines, Internet sites, clubs, etc.


I will commit myself to a group of godly men of God to be my keepers and help me stay faithful to this resolution.


I will not take this girl for a spin or test-drive her. I will lead this relationship to a lasting, thriving, godly marriage. I will be Man Enough!

Signed Ernest Wamboye   Date 19th Feb 2011

 Witnessed by God Almighty



Ernest is a follower of Jesus Christ, a husband, and a father. He has been married to Waturi since September 2012. They have three children- Thandiwe, Ivanna, and Theo. He is also the author of four books. The Wamboyes are passionate to see the Gospel of Jesus Christ clearly taught and understood in our post-modern world. They are champions of biblical discipleship and furthering the Kingdom of God by transforming one person at a time. They are the founders of The Relationship Centre Ltd (TRC), an organisation that aims to promote biblical family values in contemporary urban communities.

Discussion25 Comments

  1. MEN,you were born for this fight,SUCK IT UP AND BE AMAN,Be alert and on your guard; stand firm in your faith ([b]your conviction respecting man's relationship to God and divine things, keeping the trust and holy fervor born of faith and a part of it). Act like men and be courageous; grow in strength!

  2. This has and until further notice has always been my favorite post… probably coz it introduced me to you and the world of blogging.

    I promised that I'll frame it for the man I spend the man I'll spend the rest of my life with (when the time comes) and have your name at the bottom as its 'composer'… when that happens I shall let you know.

    Keep it up.

    • Bless you Sharleen 🙂 And wait for that man I shall 🙂 You're a God-fearing lady whose life is an example for many. I pray that your future marriage is a blessing to your family and many around you

  3. Nice one!! This reminds me of the movie 'Courageous'. When the Man GOD has for me signs this I think i'll frame it:) Nice stuff!!!!

  4. Honey as far as I am concerned the Lord has helped you keep this pact to the letter! You are indeed a slave to what you write… This is so beautiful!! I love you and respect you so much!

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