Why do we wait? Why do we wait for sex until marriage as followers of Christ? Do we do it to look more spiritual and religious than the rest of the world? Does it have certain health benefits? Does it make us look serious with our faith? Or perhaps it is a sales campaign to recruit more Christians. Why? Why?…More
One of my favourite books in the men’s section is “Dangers Men Face” by Jerry White. I remember reading it just before I proposed to Turi. I was working as an intern, constantly wondering if I would make enough money to buy that golden ring I saw in downtown Nairobi. I looked at my paycheck and compared it to my proposal…More
I get asked this question severally by my dating friends. Ernest, you married Waturi but how did you know she was the one? How do you know you did not marry the wrong one? What if the one is out there and you missed her? If you get a divorce doesn’t that mean she was not the one? If you…More
Would you bribe 500 KES to avoid paying 10,000 KES? My wife and I normally don’t use Raul (our car) on weekdays. We use the buses and public transport to get between places, chiefly because Nairobi traffic contributes to insanity. It’s a theory but many will agree that it needs no proving. However, we make exceptions when we know we…More
Why do you want to marry our daughter?” The question had been asked severally and frankly, I was growing weary of answering it. Still, I recited my response with a positive face. It had been three hours in the same chair surrounded by my fiancée’s father, grandfather, uncles and elder cousins. It was 8 men versus one. I sat in…More
One of the most heart-breaking moments in anybody’s life (even though few will admit) is the realization that Disney relationships are not real- that we can have our idea of love destroyed by the reality of relationships. We are currently at a point in history where relationships are craved for more than anything and at the same time loathed more…More
A friend of mine inadvertently revealed how he would be relieved after he got married because sexual purity wouldn’t be a problem. Much as I hated to burst his bubble, I had to let him in on the truth. Marriage does not solve the problem of lust. I won’t deny the fact that getting married does help restrain lust (even…More
Dear Reader, Once in a very long while we allow a guest writer to share profound wisdom on Pen Strokes. So far, Pen Strokes has been graced by the brilliant Owuor Kuyoh, the brave and admirable Ess Kimemia. Today, I introduce to you the Wise Keith. Keith and I met in high school. We served in the Praise and Worship team;…More
My first job was a French teacher at a Primary School near my Alma Mater. The schedule was friendly so it did not clash with my campus studies. I was earning 12,000 KES a month. This was a lot of money for me at that time, being a student. Considering my pocket money for upkeep was less than half that…More
I loved watching Sinbad growing up. His life was full of risk, adventure and so much interest! I wished I could trade my bogus life routine for just one day of the pirate’s (with his skills of course). I wanted to be stronger, faster, smarter, and better than I was. New year resolutions gave me a kick and I would…More
I have a few friends who have been hurt by members of the Church- me included. It often was because of the tongue. Jesus’ brother, James, said that if a man can control his tongue, he can control himself in any other way (James 3:2). Also within the Body of Christ, in our weakness, we can rub each other off…More
A few people have already celebrated their birthdays. However, I don’t think it is too late to share what I want. There will be many celebrations in 2014- most of them cultural. There will also be birthday celebrations for billions around the globe. This blog is for Christians, to encourage them to celebrate their own birthdays and those of others…More
1. January January was a hard month. I was out of home for the first time in my life and I was living with a new wife! When I heard my parents say that the January financial blues can strike you hard, I never paid any attention really. Well, all that lack of attention paid off in January.…More
Are you a lover in diapers or are you a mature lover? Sounds strange to say that love can be classified as mature or childish, but it is not far from the truth. This is a lesson that I learn every week with my wife. It began when we were dating and has never stopped since. What does it mean…More
My wife and I were invited for the premiere of a local television series at our Alma Mater- United States International University (USIU). We had our outfits ready the day before. The plan was to return home after work, freshen up then leave for USIU. We knew that we would be slightly late because I normally leave work at 5:30pm…More
