Articles on biblical womanhood
Queen Waturi turns 31 today. After being married to her for nearly eight years, I, as her husband, can confidently say that Turi has embodied Proverbs 31 as she turns 31. So here is King Solomon’s chapter manifested in the wife of my youth. This is 31 at 31! Proverbs 31:10 “A wife of noble character who can find? She is…More
During the quarantine, I have been able to put together an eight-part series on Handling Conflict in Relationships in a Healthy Way. This is part one. It has been made available for free. Access the rest of the course here: www.penstrokes.co.ke/current-course/ International audiences that seek to purchase the course will soon have a link with Paypal and VISA options. More
In his book, The Meaning of Marriage, Timothy Keller alludes to three levels of friendship that are necessary for any relationship to thrive. They are: The supernatural friendship The natural friendship The romantic friendship The natural friend and romantic friend are often rather obvious. So I would like to share on the supernatural friendship. A supernatural friend in marriage plays…More
In this episode on THE RELATIONSHIP CENTRE PODCAST, Ernest and Deborah host a guest- Esther Ouma as she shares her journey as a lady in waiting for marriage. This segment and the following two episodes will be a blessing to Christian women who feel like giving up on marriage altogether.More
Waiting on God’s timing can seem difficult when everyone else around you seems to be moving forward. While some worry about their biological clock, some about family’s expectations and others about getting the right man to settle with, the lady is waiting is equipped with grace from God to thrive in all seasons- dry and bountiful. Volume 14 of Boy…More
In this episode of THE RELATIONSHIP CENTRE PODCAST, Ernest, Esther, and David discuss practical steps to adopt in order to heal and move forward after a breakup.More
Struggling woman Hi Ernest, hope you are doing well. First of all, before you read this I would like you to read it with your wife because it is a sensitive topic. If you can’t read, let your wife read it herself and tell you what you need to know. I am a lady who has really struggled with sexual…More
From several talks with young adults who have ended dating relationships, I noticed that most of them (especially women) keep tabs with the ex’s progress by occasionally stalking their social media. When I ask them what’s the motive, the answer is often something that sounds like this, “I don’t want to see them happy because that will make me feel…More
Should I start a relationship when the feeling is not mutual? Hello Ernest, I am a single Christian lady. I sense that I am getting into a season where the LORD is preparing me for marriage. There is a man who claims he loves me. We are both born again. He is mature in his faith and I like that.…More
Gratitude in marriage Marriage vows are a powerful set of words. When a man and woman state them at the altar, some get teary and emotional. Some are filled with a tremendous feeling of devotion and loyalty. The vows are arguably the most important part of a wedding because they offer a look into the future- the marriage. And in…More
Fantastic five: rekindling the romance in your marriage When speaking to newly married couples on the intimacy of their marriage, we often ask about the depth of their friendships. We draw three circles of friendships for couples to consider: A supernatural friendship, a natural and a romantic friendship. We derived these three circles of friendship from Timothy Keller’s book, The…More
When my wife and I got married, we constantly heard certain questions from other married couples. Where do you live? Where do you work now? Are you still doing that? Where are you going for holiday? At the onset we didn’t think much of it. However with time, we would almost sense a comparison game going on with some (not…More
Having an affair You don’t need to live past a week in this world as a married man without being riddled with thoughts of illicit sex. It is in our movies, our newspapers, our grapevine, our offices, the Internet and in the lives of people we know. Husbands who fall into the trap of marital infidelity may have given in…More
What I learned about fatherhood from travelling with my baby alone for one week Husbands, would you travel with your under-two-year-old to a foreign country for a whole week without your wife? How long would you last? About a month ago, I travelled to the United States for my sister’s graduation in California. It was intended to be a family…More
A friend once forwarded to me a certain message about conflict in a relationship. I tried retracing the message but couldn’t find it. I’m not sure who the source is, but I remember the short story. It went like this. A man and his wife are in the house on a relaxed day without much activity. The man is reading…More
