Hi Ernest, I am considering getting into a serious longterm friendship. Many married people tell me that it is good for me and my partner to be friends. My question is, what does friendship look like? What should I look out for? Thanks for writing, Beloved. The following is a response from our book BAESICS: Setting the Right Foundations to…More
INBOX: Hi Ernest I would like to hear your thoughts on taking time apart from your partner following disagreements or hurtful events during dating/courting. Hey, thanks for writing. While dating, taking time apart after a painful fight can help. However, it can end badly if you are not keen on a few things. A friend of mine says, “A break…More
Hi Ernest, I need your advice. So my boyfriend and I have started dating. We are serious and heading for marriage. We are both born-again believers. We have made our stand on purity clear based on our values and our mutual faith in Jesus. We wanted to agree on everything so that there are no red flags. We even agreed…More
Waiting on God’s timing can seem difficult when everyone else around you seems to be moving forward. While some worry about their biological clock, some about family’s expectations and others about getting the right man to settle with, the lady is waiting is equipped with grace from God to thrive in all seasons- dry and bountiful. Volume 14 of Boy…More
From several talks with young adults who have ended dating relationships, I noticed that most of them (especially women) keep tabs with the ex’s progress by occasionally stalking their social media. When I ask them what’s the motive, the answer is often something that sounds like this, “I don’t want to see them happy because that will make me feel…More
Should I start a relationship when the feeling is not mutual? Hello Ernest, I am a single Christian lady. I sense that I am getting into a season where the LORD is preparing me for marriage. There is a man who claims he loves me. We are both born again. He is mature in his faith and I like that.…More
A friend once forwarded to me a certain message about conflict in a relationship. I tried retracing the message but couldn’t find it. I’m not sure who the source is, but I remember the short story. It went like this. A man and his wife are in the house on a relaxed day without much activity. The man is reading…More
When we address Love, Sex and Relationship issues in conferences and events, many professing believers ask us, “Is it okay for me to date or marry an unbeliever?” The answer may seem obvious to many mature followers of Jesus, but for many growing believers, this question ought to be answered well for them to understand why the answer is “No.”…More
Over the years, we have had several people write to us emails of being in relationship dilemmas. One says they are in love with two people. Another says they love a man but he is married. Another one says he and his best friend’s girlfriend are in love. Some have crossed sexual boundaries and live with the repercussions up to…More
We are doing a three-part series on thriving in your single-hood. Our inspiration comes from Ken Grave’s book, Master, Mission, Mate: A guide for Christian singles. We are studying the first single man i.e. Adam. He gives us a picture of the transition from single-hood to marriage with God at the centre of it. Adam had God as his Master, then God…More
Hi Ernest. Thanks for responding to my inbox. My question is this. So I met this guy recently at my church during one of our ministry events. I had seen him before but we never used to talk. He then randomly walked up to me last week and he told me that God showed him in a dream that we…More
Over the past one year, I have had several twenty-something year old Christians inbox me questions about dating. I found several negative themes in majority of these questions (not all, but majority). Some of these were: difficulty to maintain sexual purity, identity crisis, disillusionment about a good marriage, scepticism about their current relationships and uncertainty of dating again. To sum up all…More
