Browsing: Dating and Courting

Articles on pre-marital relationships leading to marriage

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Hi Ernest, I need your advice. So my boyfriend and I have started dating. We are serious and heading for marriage. We are both born-again believers. We have made our stand on purity clear based on our values and our mutual faith in Jesus. We wanted to agree on everything so that there are no red flags. We even agreed…More

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Waiting on God’s timing can seem difficult when everyone else around you seems to be moving forward. While some worry about their biological clock, some about family’s expectations and others about getting the right man to settle with, the lady is waiting is equipped with grace from God to thrive in all seasons- dry and bountiful. Volume 14 of Boy…More

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From several talks with young adults who have ended dating relationships, I noticed that most of them (especially women) keep tabs with the ex’s progress by occasionally stalking their social media. When I ask them what’s the motive, the answer is often something that sounds like this, “I don’t want to see them happy because that will make me feel…More

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OUR NEW BOOK My wife, Waturi, and I have written a new book. The title of the book is BAESICS: Settling the Right Foundations to Marry Well. The book is a premarital guide for couples and individuals contemplating marriage. The book can also serve as a brilliant refresher post-marital book. We hope to inspire future marriages by helping them set the right…More

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Should I start a relationship when the feeling is not mutual? Hello Ernest, I am a single Christian lady. I sense that I am getting into a season where the LORD is preparing me for marriage.  There is a man who claims he loves me. We are both born again. He is mature in his faith and I like that.…More

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A friend once forwarded to me a certain message about conflict in a relationship. I tried retracing the message but couldn’t find it. I’m not sure who the source is, but I remember the short story. It went like this. A man and his wife are in the house on a relaxed day without much activity. The man is reading…More

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When we address Love, Sex and Relationship issues in conferences and events, many professing believers ask us, “Is it okay for me to date or marry an unbeliever?” The answer may seem obvious to many mature followers of Jesus, but for many growing believers, this question ought to be answered well for them to understand why the answer is “No.”…More

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Hello Ernest. I like your articles a lot. They have helped me grow. Sorry to be direct but I need your help. I am a campus student in Nairobi. I got born again recently and I must say it is the best thing that happened to me. I did not understand the gospel until recently. The reason I need your…More

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This past month, I have had the privilege of teaching several young people on love, sex and relationships. After the teachings I normally try to have a question and answer session. I noticed that most of the questions asked by unmarried youth in our country have to do with a lack of emotional integrity. I have written on emotional integrity…More

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This week, I was teaching a workshop on sexuality to some teenagers and I said “Sex is a great thing!” About three of them giggled. A few of them blushed and many looked at me as if I had said some unpardonable words. After some further interaction with them, I realised that most of them had lived all their teenage…More

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Today’s blogpost is by a friend of mine called John Kigada. John Kigada is a Leadership Educator and Social Entrepreneur at the Cipher Taifa Foundation.  His scholarly and curricula interests include Christology, mate selection by males, music leadership, and biblical entrepreneurial leadership. He and I started the “Dating and Purpose” seminar this year and it was successful. John is a…More

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Over the years, we have had several people write to us emails of being in relationship dilemmas. One says they are in love with two people. Another says they love a man but he is married. Another one says he and his best friend’s girlfriend are in love. Some have crossed sexual boundaries and live with the repercussions up to…More

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We are doing a three-part series on thriving in your single-hood. Our inspiration comes from Ken Grave’s book, Master, Mission, Mate: A guide for Christian singles. We are studying the first single man i.e. Adam. He gives us a picture of the transition from single-hood to marriage with God at the centre of it. Adam had God as his Master, then God…More

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