Tagged: Relationships

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Father’s day is coming up. The more years I clock as a father, I cannot help but notice the profound impact that the male parent has on a child. I have understood this impact even more owing to the sessions of counselling I have with couples; many relationship problems between a husband and wife can be traced to father wounds…More

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The doors of destiny swing open on the hinges of honour. David was anointed as God’s chosen King of Israel when he was just a boy. He had to wait for about 15 years for the incumbent King Saul to die. In those 15 years, David served as a hired musician and in military service to King Saul. In a…More

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Today in my quiet time, I read from 2 Corinthians chapter 6. There is a section that we famously know (verse 14). 2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (NKJV) It says to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. A yoke is…More

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Ernest delivered a message on dealing with rejection at the Technical University of Kenya Christian Union. Here is the recording of that message. More

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Christian friends on social media, let us normalise slowness to speak when we hear or read news from one spouse concerning a broken marriage. I am noticing a flurry of social media updates from hurting couples who seem bent to tell their side of the story directly or indirectly. One of the underlying effects is that the partner whose side…More

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INBOX: Hi Ernest I would like to hear your thoughts on taking time apart from your partner following disagreements or hurtful events during dating/courting. Hey, thanks for writing. While dating, taking time apart after a painful fight can help. However, it can end badly if you are not keen on a few things. A friend of mine says, “A break…More

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THE UGLINESS OF GOSSIP One of the most frustrating things I have been challenged to deal with in the past year is people who have engaged in slander and gossip about me. In the past year, I have encountered a few situations where people have said untruthful things said about me in my absence. Some were people I hardly knew…More

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From several talks with young adults who have ended dating relationships, I noticed that most of them (especially women) keep tabs with the ex’s progress by occasionally stalking their social media. When I ask them what’s the motive, the answer is often something that sounds like this, “I don’t want to see them happy because that will make me feel…More

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OUR NEW BOOK My wife, Waturi, and I have written a new book. The title of the book is BAESICS: Settling the Right Foundations to Marry Well. The book is a premarital guide for couples and individuals contemplating marriage. The book can also serve as a brilliant refresher post-marital book. We hope to inspire future marriages by helping them set the right…More

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Gratitude in marriage Marriage vows are a powerful set of words. When a man and woman state them at the altar, some get teary and emotional. Some are filled with a tremendous feeling of devotion and loyalty. The vows are arguably the most important part of a wedding because they offer a look into the future- the marriage. And in…More

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Fantastic five: rekindling the romance in your marriage When speaking to newly married couples on the intimacy of their marriage, we often ask about the depth of their friendships. We draw three circles of friendships for couples to consider: A supernatural friendship, a natural and a romantic friendship. We derived these three circles of friendship from Timothy Keller’s book, The…More

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Having an affair You don’t need to live past a week in this world as a married man without being riddled with thoughts of illicit sex. It is in our movies, our newspapers, our grapevine, our offices, the Internet and in the lives of people we know. Husbands who fall into the trap of marital infidelity may have given in…More

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A friend once forwarded to me a certain message about conflict in a relationship. I tried retracing the message but couldn’t find it. I’m not sure who the source is, but I remember the short story. It went like this. A man and his wife are in the house on a relaxed day without much activity. The man is reading…More

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