Articles on biblical marriage
We are doing a three-part series on thriving in your single-hood. Our inspiration comes from Ken Grave’s book, Master, Mission, Mate: A guide for Christian singles. We are studying the first single man i.e. Adam. He gives us a picture of the transition from single-hood to marriage with God at the centre of it. Adam had God as his Master, then God…More
Hi Ernest. Thanks for responding to my inbox. My question is this. So I met this guy recently at my church during one of our ministry events. I had seen him before but we never used to talk. He then randomly walked up to me last week and he told me that God showed him in a dream that we…More
Recently, a friend of mine asked me to help advise some couple friends who were tired of their new marriage. They were even considering calling it quits. Their fights were no longer cute disagreements about toothpaste and socks in the living rooms. They had reached an upscale war of vicious fights and quarrels and nobody was backing out. No infidelity…More
Question Hi Ernest. I would like to say thank you for the ministry that you and your wife are doing. I have personally been blessed and I have learned to put my trust in Christ whenever I face obstacles in my life. But I’m writing to you on a different note. I am a born again Christian and I was…More
The gender wars on how men should love women and how women should love men have flooded the blogosphere. Often, several readers inbox me soliciting my advice as well. I frequently point them to the scriptures and the responses are not very exciting. Perhaps they wanted some avant-garde view that had never been heard of before. They hoped I would…More
Exodus 20:3 has the first commandment of the Decalogue: “You shall have no other gods but me.” With the biblical and historical background of Israel written for us, we can easily point out the idols- the golden calf, the Baal statues, the Asherah poles and the molded pagan deities. It is easy to look at all those and think, “Well, I definitely…More
I have attended many weddings since our own and I can’t help but notice something key in the fantastic sermons prepared by pastors for the bride and groom. Pastor John Wesley Nguuh preached in our wedding from Colossians 1 and 2 and he too did a great job at giving us last minute pieces of advice before we became man…More
My wife and I have had several born-again young women write to us about the ups and downs of dating and young marriage relationships in the 21st century. One particular recurrent issue we keep hearing is, “I don’t feel protected by him” or “I just don’t feel safe with him.” When the young Christian man hears the term “protect your woman”…More
Beloved, I cannot guarantee you a magic potion to landing a fancy Disney marriage, but I can guarantee you wisdom to not landing a horrible one. And because godly marriages are miles better than Disney fantasies, here are five reasons why some young Christian women are not ready for godly relationships that lead to thriving marriages. Speaking ill of marriage and relationships What do you reckon…More
I recently posted a Facebook update about four things that a born again husband ought to do for his wife as required by the Lord. It gained considerable traffic and many people were interested in it. I decided to expound each reason and add a fifth. So these are five things that a married man of God is required by…More
I woke up this morning to a Facebook post from my cousin. She asked: What holds a man back from committing to marriage? The question is general so let me clarify. The context of the question was notwithstanding all struggles such as lack of money, a strained relationship or lack of a woman to marry. The assumption was a man who ought…More
When I got married, I was met with a few realities that I never expected. I thought I was weird for having encountered these realities until I spoke to a few other married folk, only to realize that the experiences were mutual. I thank God that I was prepared for some of these realities thanks to pre-marital counselling and my…More
On September 1st 2014, Waturi and I celebrated 2 years of marriage. Last year, I wrote a list of things I learnt in my first year in marriage. It was undoubtedly a post that drew many to ask if there will be one like it every year. As I expected, I received messages from a few asking what was on the…More
I came from work one Thursday evening, tired, hungry and bogged down with 99 other problems that I can’t remember right now. We had just moved houses and I was less than pleased that a few of our things were still in moving boxes. I walked into our cul-de-sac and could already imagine the sumptuous meal that Turi, my wife,…More
Why do you want to marry our daughter?” The question had been asked severally and frankly, I was growing weary of answering it. Still, I recited my response with a positive face. It had been three hours in the same chair surrounded by my fiancée’s father, grandfather, uncles and elder cousins. It was 8 men versus one. I sat in…More
