The League of Leading Men


877dc3746c8c4975819637ddfee80086Men will be always be required to take care of the fairer sex; women. Even despite the fact that the ladies may drive bigger cars, earn bigger cash, and dress in shinier suits, they are desperate for a Charming who will be courageous for their sake. In fairy tales, the princess in the tower is swoon because of the prince who slays the dragon, beats the foes and restores her to her father’s Kingdom. She is so swoon that she marries him the next page. One may say that those are just fairy tales and shouldn’t be given second thought but be that as it may, fairy tales have their drawing from a deep human need or desire. And there’s a strong feminine desire demonstrated in Cinderella and Snow White; a man who leads.

A man who leads hooks his motivation on permanent foundations and not on temporary foundations. A woman with godly character is a permanent foundation to build a marriage and a future. A marriage built on curves and hips will tumble the day the hips crumble. The motivation has to stand. The greatest unchanging motivation is

Christ. On this foundation will a man of courage never falter. If a lady perceives that her man is leading and his motivation is pure, one will be surprised at the lengths she will follow him. Till death do us part is one length that not every lady today reaches. Your motivation to lead must not die or else your followership will.

A man who leads realizes that his function is more important than his position. Jerry White, former president of The Navigators, in his book, Dangers Men Face, states that every position in life will disappear. None is permanent. Realize that there will always be people better than you and with more money than you. But are you the man who walks home and the kids run to their bedrooms or are you the one who the kids run to meet in the driveway? Will you be the man that the wife sighs when you arrive or the one who plants a big kiss on your lips when you come back home? When you embrace your function, the people around you love you and want you to be their leader.

Your lady will even be proud to be called by your name, Mrs. Wamboye, Mrs. Juma etc. If not yet there, she‘s probably dreaming about it. But when you embrace your position, you become the villain of the story. Sure you don’t own six ranches in the Rift but guess what, your woman feels like the richest lady in the world. Sure you may not have the latest BMW model but to your kids, you are their superman. Position will help eventually buy better gifts and drive nicer cars but compared to your function as a man, it means nothing. Love your lady,
spend time with her, make her laugh, spend money on her and don’t make her number one in your life. Make her the only one. Lead and she will follow.

Men that lead have influence. Once again the deceitfulness of money tells us that the man with the most toys wins. But what profits it a man to gain all the toys in the world and lose his very soul? A man with influence can do so without wielding a dollar bill or flashing a shoe from Italy. Influence is not incitement. Anyone can unite people against a problem but few can unite people on a solution. The latter is influence. Your influence is possible because of your character. Strong character begets strong influence. Weak character begets weak influence. Your character many a times is centred on three things. One, how you treat people you believe you can get nothing out of. Two, how generously and responsibly you handle your money. Three, how you exercise your moral discipline. To expand the three would require a whole new blog. Take time and review the three in your life. In your leading, do you influence positively?

A man who leads has his identity and confidence on everlasting principles. Ask a man who he is and he will tell you what he does. What you do is a terrible place to place your identity and confidence. Let me explain why. If your identity and confidence in life is in playing basketball and you are a world-star basketball player, what happens the day you are involved in a gross accident and your hands are amputated? Will you cease being a man because what you do has been taken away? Many would. Why? Because their identity and confidence is on fading stuff. What if your lady is by you and is motivated to be by your side because of that identity and confidence. Will she leave when it crumbles? I put it boldly that the only unfading foundation a man can place his hope in is Christ Jesus. If you have not, I can assure you that you are missing out on a fulfilment that words fall short to describe. Christ led and commissioned men to be parallel to who he is to the church. Be a hero today and take the lead.





Ernest is a follower of Jesus Christ, a husband, and a father. He has been married to Waturi since September 2012. They have three children- Thandiwe, Ivanna, and Theo. He is also the author of four books. The Wamboyes are passionate to see the Gospel of Jesus Christ clearly taught and understood in our post-modern world. They are champions of biblical discipleship and furthering the Kingdom of God by transforming one person at a time. They are the founders of The Relationship Centre Ltd (TRC), an organisation that aims to promote biblical family values in contemporary urban communities.

Discussion7 Comments

  1. 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
    "What if your lady is by you and is motivated to be by your side because of that identity and confidence. Will she leave when it crumbles?"

  2. Don't make her number one…. For a moment I was puzzled…. But u couldn't have said it better…. "Make her the only one"… This is very true…
    Nd that is a very interesting question "how we treat those who we know we will not get anything… It's very hard for us to treat or even give our time to those who we know we can not get anything…. But striving to do makes you a better person… Nd ultimately it's only in God whom if we plant ourselves do we grow nd prosper as a stem planted in God's roots can never be cut down…
    Thanks Ernest….

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