BAESICS: Setting the Right Foundations to Marry Well

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OUR NEW BOOK

My wife, Waturi, and I have written a new book. The title of the book is BAESICS: Settling the Right Foundations to Marry Well. The book is a premarital guide for couples and individuals contemplating marriage. The book can also serve as a brilliant refresher post-marital book. We hope to inspire future marriages by helping them set the right foundations now. We are giving away a free sample of chapter one. Just click here to access it.

BOOK BLURB

To say choosing a life partner is an important decision is an understatement. No other person has the propensity to affect your life for the better or for the worse more than the person you marry. For this reason, it is important that the person you call your lifetime bae is fit for the journey up ahead. Even better, it is important that you are equally equipped for the journey that ensues till death do you part. The basics for choosing your bae are contained herein. In it the reader will find the necessary biblical foundations needed to marry well. The reader will also learn of the pitfalls that cause unnecessary hurt that they need to avoid. Baesics endeavours to give you the heart of your Creator as you relate with the opposite sex.

Below is an outline summary of the contents of the book

CHAPTER ONE: First Things First

In this section, we outline the importance of placing the horse before the cart. To venture into the details of romance with the opposite sex will have little success if you do not consult the very author of that romance- The God Creator. You can download a free sample of the chapter here.

CHAPTER TWO: You Need A Master?

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A man or woman (as an individual), if not under the authority of truth has no success with the realities of life. Truth is not relative; truth is objective. The more sincere you are with the truth, the greater success you have in your love relationships. If truth is not your master, you’ll be out of touch with reality and the results in relationships will not be as rosy as we would want. Truth is not abstract; Truth is a person.

CHAPTER THREE: You Need A Purpose?

The single person must realize that they are a whole and complete human being even when not married or in a relationship with the opposite sex. A paramount pursuit during the season of being alone is to be burdened with purpose. What am I made for? If you answer this question definitively, you will set your individual life on the right course and be a suitable candidate for a healthy marriage.

CHAPTER FOUR: You Need To Wait Patiently

Good things come to those that wait. Patience is not merely about waiting, but really about having the right set of attitudes and skills as you wait. A waiting period is not a wasted period if you put it to good use. This chapter tells us how.

CHAPTER FIVE: Be The One

While everyone else is obsessed with finding Mr. Right and Mrs. Right, it is far more important to become Mr. Right and Mrs. Right. Are you the person that the person you are looking for is looking for? If that’s a mouthful, we will simplify it and ask, “Would you date you?”

CHAPTER SIX: Find The One

Who you marry is serious heart business. You must choose wisely. Before you marry, you have the freedom to choose the mate to love. After you marry, you only have the responsibility to love the mate you chose. The decision is fragile. In this section, see who is in and who is out.

CHAPTER SEVEN: Man Enough

Every man must realise that the goal of the enemy is to emasculate the man, discourage the woman and destroy up the family unit. Toxic masculinity and false identities will cripple a man and make him a less suitable candidate to love a woman passionately. In this section men will learn where the right identity comes from.

CHAPTER EIGHT: Girl Power

If toxic masculinity is bad for men and their relationships, then you can rightly guess that toxic femininity is bad for women and their relationships as well. Women ought to source their strength from the right power in order to be the most suitable candidates for their future marriages.

CHAPTER NINE: Emotional Purity

Unnecessary hurt and wastage of time can be avoided if men and women learn to guard their hearts. This section leads us through practical wisdom on healthy boundaries to maintain healthy relationships and avoid emotionally awkward situations.

CHAPTER TEN: Sexual Purity

If you do not learn to express your sexuality in a God-honouring way, that very sexuality will bring you dread and not joy. This section busts myths on living a pure life whilst encouraging the reader that victory is possible and advantageous in an area that the world scorns the believers.

CHAPTER ELEVEN: A Letter From Lust to a Man

This section is especially dedicated to the men. Of all the tactics of the enemy, none is often as damning and destructive as sexual immorality. If a man masters the sin that is knocking at the door, he will do well and he will be glad when he sees the fruits of it. This section is written in a Screwtape-Letters-esque format to get the severity of lust’s tactics across to the reader in a clear way.

CHAPTER TWELVE: Accountability

A man or woman not accountable to fellow men and women respectively is a dangerous person to relate with. Accountability offers a healthy community for godly relationships to thrive. A lack of accountability leaves individuals set up for imminent failure in their man-woman relationships

CHAPTER THIRTEEN: Hurts And Wounds

In this section we help the reader understand that their unaddressed past hurts and wounds will hinder their chances at a healthy marriage. Unforgiveness and bitterness are the enemies of peaceful relationships. This section gives you the tools to conquer these villains of the heart.

CHAPTER FOURTEEN: Happily Ever After

Happily-ever-afters are not reserved for Disney. They are available for those that pursue God’s will, not just now but also in the afterlife.

If you wish to purchase the book go to this purchase link. You can also buy it on Amazon.

AUTHORS BIO

Ernest and Waturi Wamboye have been married since September 2012. They have two daughters: Thandiwe, born in July 2016 and Ivanna born in September 2018. The Wamboyes are passionate to see the Gospel of Jesus Christ clearly taught and understood in our post-modern world. They are champions of biblical discipleship and furthering the Kingdom of God by transforming one person at a time. They are the founders of The Relationship Centre Ltd (TRC), an organisation that aims to promote biblical family values in contemporary urban communities. Under the umbrella of TRC they run the following ministries: Boy Meets Girl, a quarterly relationships forum to help young people marry well, Powerhouse, a men’s pornography addiction recovery program and Dating Clinic, a couples’ premarital and post-marital forum.

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Ernest is a follower of Jesus Christ, a husband and a father. He has been married to Waturi since September 2012. They have two daughters: Thandiwe and Ivanna. He is also the author of four books. The Wamboyes are passionate to see the Gospel of Jesus Christ clearly taught and understood in our post-modern world. They are champions of biblical discipleship and furthering the Kingdom of God by transforming one person at a time. They are the founders of The Relationship Centre Ltd (TRC), an organisation that aims to promote biblical family values in contemporary urban communities.

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