Hi Ernest, I need your advice. So my boyfriend and I have started dating. We are serious and heading for marriage. We are both born-again believers. We have made our stand on purity clear based on our values and our mutual faith in Jesus. We wanted to agree on everything so that there are no red flags. We even agreed…More
In his book, The Meaning of Marriage, Timothy Keller alludes to three levels of friendship that are necessary for any relationship to thrive. They are: The supernatural friendship The natural friendship The romantic friendship The natural friend and romantic friend are often rather obvious. So I would like to share on the supernatural friendship. A supernatural friend in marriage plays…More
STRUGGLING WITH UNFORGIVENESS One of the bona fide insignias of a truly born again believer is a forgiving heart. It is by far one of the most striking characteristics in the life of someone who has encountered the grace and mercy of the Risen Christ. It is a clear sign of fruit. A self-proclaimed believer who withholds forgiveness vehemently and…More
In this episode on THE RELATIONSHIP CENTRE PODCAST, Ernest and Deborah host a guest- Esther Ouma as she shares her journey as a lady in waiting for marriage. This segment and the following two episodes will be a blessing to Christian women who feel like giving up on marriage altogether.More
My wife and I celebrated seven years of marriage this September. As many of our friends sent us congratulatory messages, a friend of my wife asked me if I was truly happy. I asked her why. “I met person X and they said that to have that kind of happiness and you’ve been married for less than 10 years is…More
THE UGLINESS OF GOSSIP One of the most frustrating things I have been challenged to deal with in the past year is people who have engaged in slander and gossip about me. In the past year, I have encountered a few situations where people have said untruthful things said about me in my absence. Some were people I hardly knew…More
Waiting on God’s timing can seem difficult when everyone else around you seems to be moving forward. While some worry about their biological clock, some about family’s expectations and others about getting the right man to settle with, the lady is waiting is equipped with grace from God to thrive in all seasons- dry and bountiful. Volume 14 of Boy…More
In this episode of THE RELATIONSHIP CENTRE PODCAST, Ernest, Esther, and David discuss practical steps to adopt in order to heal and move forward after a breakup.More
This post is a summary of the lessons I derived from a book I just finished reading. The details are below: Title: Conversion: How God Creates a People Author: Michael Lawrence Publisher: Crossway in partnership with Ekklesia Afrika Year: 2017 Pages: 137 Michael Lawrence addresses one of the most confounding things facing the final church age- the issue of false…More
In this episode of THE RELATIONSHIP CENTRE PODCAST, Ernest and David discuss the importance of fatherhood.More
Is your church preaching the Gospel or is it preaching humanism? I have had the opportunity to visit several churches in the past year. In some cases, I’ve been called to preach. In other instances, my wife and I just decided to visit. A handful warmed our hearts with the unadulterated preaching of the gospel. However, a good number centred…More
Struggling woman Hi Ernest, hope you are doing well. First of all, before you read this I would like you to read it with your wife because it is a sensitive topic. If you can’t read, let your wife read it herself and tell you what you need to know. I am a lady who has really struggled with sexual…More
From several talks with young adults who have ended dating relationships, I noticed that most of them (especially women) keep tabs with the ex’s progress by occasionally stalking their social media. When I ask them what’s the motive, the answer is often something that sounds like this, “I don’t want to see them happy because that will make me feel…More
On the week he was crucified, Jesus Christ gave a parable to his disciples. Matthew 21:28-31 “But what do you think? A man had two sons, and he came to the first and said, ‘Son, go work today in the vineyard.’ And he answered, ‘I will not’; but afterward he regretted it and went. The man came to the second…More
During one of my Dating Clinic classes, I usually ask couples, “Suppose you just got married and then one month in after your honeymoon holiday, your spouse got into a terrible accident and became permanently paralysed. They can’t walk, talk or function cognitively; they’ve become a vegetable. Suppose you are compelled to take care of them, wash them, feed them,…More
