Have you given up on love? Men and women walking with God who get into serious relationships need to be patient with each other during difficult times. Often I have heard of two well-meaning people who lose a good relationship at the first sign of trouble. When the mushy feeling disappeared, when one ate ugali with their fingers instead of using…More
Darkness is a sequel to part one, titled “She”. Read “She” here. Darkness The man and the woman had been walking for nearly three hours. The woman lagged behind. Her feet were sore and her calves were burning with every step she took. Still, she kept going because he wouldn’t stop. The man looked strong enough to keep walking for…More
The woman watched as the man on the ground lay sound asleep. She wanted to touch him but she feared arousing him from his slumber. She did not want to scare him. She watched his bare chest rise and fall steadily as he inhaled and exhaled in his sleep. She took in his full form lying on the ground peacefully…More
Why do we wait? Why do we wait for sex until marriage as followers of Christ? Do we do it to look more spiritual and religious than the rest of the world? Does it have certain health benefits? Does it make us look serious with our faith? Or perhaps it is a sales campaign to recruit more Christians. Why? Why?…More
One of my favourite books in the men’s section is “Dangers Men Face” by Jerry White. I remember reading it just before I proposed to Turi. I was working as an intern, constantly wondering if I would make enough money to buy that golden ring I saw in downtown Nairobi. I looked at my paycheck and compared it to my proposal…More
I get asked this question severally by my dating friends. Ernest, you married Waturi but how did you know she was the one? How do you know you did not marry the wrong one? What if the one is out there and you missed her? If you get a divorce doesn’t that mean she was not the one? If you…More
Why do you want to marry our daughter?” The question had been asked severally and frankly, I was growing weary of answering it. Still, I recited my response with a positive face. It had been three hours in the same chair surrounded by my fiancée’s father, grandfather, uncles and elder cousins. It was 8 men versus one. I sat in…More
One of the most heart-breaking moments in anybody’s life (even though few will admit) is the realization that Disney relationships are not real- that we can have our idea of love destroyed by the reality of relationships. We are currently at a point in history where relationships are craved for more than anything and at the same time loathed more…More
My wife and I were invited for the premiere of a local television series at our Alma Mater- United States International University (USIU). We had our outfits ready the day before. The plan was to return home after work, freshen up then leave for USIU. We knew that we would be slightly late because I normally leave work at 5:30pm…More
Sex is fantastic! God created this act of marriage for a man and women to enrapture each other, delight in each other and use it to procreate. God made Adam and then he made Eve, to fit right in his embrace. For her body to connect with his, for their souls to unite in the physical exchange of pleasure. He…More
You like her company. You have a lot in common. You talk a lot on chat or via text message or via Whatsapp. You would be dead worried if she got hurt. You would punch the guy who breaks her heart. You are fond of her. You know her very well. She refers to you as a close friend. You…More
I have been married for a year now. The days have gone by so quickly, it feels like Waturi and I walked down that aisle and said “I do” to each other only a month ago. There are many things that I have learned in my rookie tenure as a married man. I will share them with you. Hopefully it…More
There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t jump puddles for you. -Anonymous- In my discourse with a girl who wrote to me a few months ago, I concluded that worshipping the ground a man walks on is not a difficult feat if you’re a woman. You don’t need 19th Century slave trade skills…More
There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.” -Shakespeare’s Hamlet- What’s the big deal about marriage? I have been challenged by that question five times this week by five different people. The first was a middle-aged man who asked me why young people were afraid of marriage. The second was a girl…More
I conducted a brief survey on sexual activity and the church on Survey Monkey not long ago. It wasn’t an empirical survey but a very basic and forthright one. I tallied the results of 94 adults (47 men and 47 ladies). Our demography ranged from 18-35. 58 of our respondents were aged between 18 and 24. 36 were aged between…More
