Why do you want to marry our daughter?” The question had been asked severally and frankly, I was growing weary of answering it. Still, I recited my response with a positive face. It had been three hours in the same chair surrounded by my fiancée’s father, grandfather, uncles and elder cousins. It was 8 men versus one. I sat in…More
A friend of mine inadvertently revealed how he would be relieved after he got married because sexual purity wouldn’t be a problem. Much as I hated to burst his bubble, I had to let him in on the truth. Marriage does not solve the problem of lust. I won’t deny the fact that getting married does help restrain lust (even…More
My wife and I were invited for the premiere of a local television series at our Alma Mater- United States International University (USIU). We had our outfits ready the day before. The plan was to return home after work, freshen up then leave for USIU. We knew that we would be slightly late because I normally leave work at 5:30pm…More
Sex is fantastic! God created this act of marriage for a man and women to enrapture each other, delight in each other and use it to procreate. God made Adam and then he made Eve, to fit right in his embrace. For her body to connect with his, for their souls to unite in the physical exchange of pleasure. He…More
You like her company. You have a lot in common. You talk a lot on chat or via text message or via Whatsapp. You would be dead worried if she got hurt. You would punch the guy who breaks her heart. You are fond of her. You know her very well. She refers to you as a close friend. You…More
I have been married for a year now. The days have gone by so quickly, it feels like Waturi and I walked down that aisle and said “I do” to each other only a month ago. There are many things that I have learned in my rookie tenure as a married man. I will share them with you. Hopefully it…More
There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t jump puddles for you. -Anonymous- In my discourse with a girl who wrote to me a few months ago, I concluded that worshipping the ground a man walks on is not a difficult feat if you’re a woman. You don’t need 19th Century slave trade skills…More
There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.” -Shakespeare’s Hamlet- What’s the big deal about marriage? I have been challenged by that question five times this week by five different people. The first was a middle-aged man who asked me why young people were afraid of marriage. The second was a girl…More
I conducted a brief survey on sexual activity and the church on Survey Monkey not long ago. It wasn’t an empirical survey but a very basic and forthright one. I tallied the results of 94 adults (47 men and 47 ladies). Our demography ranged from 18-35. 58 of our respondents were aged between 18 and 24. 36 were aged between…More
Relationships are sweet when you receive affection. They’re sweeter when you give affection. They’re sweetest when it’s mutual. Hey, I just came up with that! You can quote me if you want. If you’re obsessed about receiving attention in a relationship, your need (read greed) will never be satisfied. Relationships thrive best when we give. Give your money, give your…More
Before I met Waturi, I had kissed a girl. I was 18 and sexy, looking for an equally sexy girl to complete this package. I had a knack for getting bad girls but not this time. This time she was right for me. We met through mutual friends. She was a believer and so was I. What else mattered? She…More
Courage often skips a generation. And often, it comes back from unexpected places. “If God wants us to get married after campus, he will give us car in 2010.” I spoke these words to my then girlfriend, very skeptical that a God who could split the Red Sea could grant such a bizarre request. We had just talked of the…More
I attended a boys-only boarding high school. In one of my poems from high school it reads, “wrote love letters to sweet little Mary. Made photocopies to Lucy and Njeri.” I would like to say that that was true. That would make a good story, now wouldn’t it? But it’s not. However, the idea behind the humour is true. Girls.…More
Dear reader, Today’s blogspot is a guest article from a writer I admire. Mr. Owuor Kuyoh. I asked Owuor to guest write this week on Pen Strokes because the same spirit and the same ministry or reconciliation rests in his heart and lies in his words. Not only will you enjoy this read but you will be transformed to devote yourself to a league…More
God doesn’t have favourites but he has intimates. I have seen this to be true in my life. After struggling to find the pencil that all along was on my ear for such a long time, I came to learn that every man who desires to live a life of fulfilment with a godly, loving, romantic and mature woman (the…More
