Articles on biblical womanhood
From several talks with young adults who have ended dating relationships, I noticed that most of them (especially women) keep tabs with the ex’s progress by occasionally stalking their social media. When I ask them what’s the motive, the answer is often something that sounds like this, “I don’t want to see them happy because that will make me feel…More
Should I start a relationship when the feeling is not mutual? Hello Ernest, I am a single Christian lady. I sense that I am getting into a season where the LORD is preparing me for marriage. There is a man who claims he loves me. We are both born again. He is mature in his faith and I like that.…More
Gratitude in marriage Marriage vows are a powerful set of words. When a man and woman state them at the altar, some get teary and emotional. Some are filled with a tremendous feeling of devotion and loyalty. The vows are arguably the most important part of a wedding because they offer a look into the future- the marriage. And in…More
Fantastic five: rekindling the romance in your marriage When speaking to newly married couples on the intimacy of their marriage, we often ask about the depth of their friendships. We draw three circles of friendships for couples to consider: A supernatural friendship, a natural and a romantic friendship. We derived these three circles of friendship from Timothy Keller’s book, The…More
When my wife and I got married, we constantly heard certain questions from other married couples. Where do you live? Where do you work now? Are you still doing that? Where are you going for holiday? At the onset we didn’t think much of it. However with time, we would almost sense a comparison game going on with some (not…More
Having an affair You don’t need to live past a week in this world as a married man without being riddled with thoughts of illicit sex. It is in our movies, our newspapers, our grapevine, our offices, the Internet and in the lives of people we know. Husbands who fall into the trap of marital infidelity may have given in…More
What I learned about fatherhood from travelling with my baby alone for one week Husbands, would you travel with your under-two-year-old to a foreign country for a whole week without your wife? How long would you last? About a month ago, I travelled to the United States for my sister’s graduation in California. It was intended to be a family…More
A friend once forwarded to me a certain message about conflict in a relationship. I tried retracing the message but couldn’t find it. I’m not sure who the source is, but I remember the short story. It went like this. A man and his wife are in the house on a relaxed day without much activity. The man is reading…More
This is a recording for a sermon I did at THE EXPERIENCE youth church of DC Kahawa Sukari.More
This article is a reblog from www.hadithi.co.ke. My wife, Waturi contributed to the blog by writing a letter to her younger self. This can minister to young women before they enter the marital union. Dear Turi, I see you in Chemistry Class, 17 years old and day dreaming about your marriage. How boy crazy were you?? Anyway, you have THE…More
Hello Ernest. I have a question. I’m not sure if you have answered this in your blogs before but perhaps you could if you haven’t. My married friends and I have a couples’ fellowship. We are all born again. We were having a discussion on sexuality in marriage and the issue of oral sex came up. We seemed pretty divided…More
Hello Ernest. I like your articles a lot. They have helped me grow. Sorry to be direct but I need your help. I am a campus student in Nairobi. I got born again recently and I must say it is the best thing that happened to me. I did not understand the gospel until recently. The reason I need your…More
In my time ministering to people in the area of man-woman relationships, I have seen the same kinds of problems manifest in different people. Their stories may be different, their examples may be different but their problems are often the same. One particular problem that we often encounter is that of weak women. It’s not to cause offence. I…More
This past month, I have had the privilege of teaching several young people on love, sex and relationships. After the teachings I normally try to have a question and answer session. I noticed that most of the questions asked by unmarried youth in our country have to do with a lack of emotional integrity. I have written on emotional integrity…More
Last year alone, from our interaction with several young married couples, we noticed that there are some men in church who behave badly in their marriages because there is no one to rebuke them when they are out of line. Their heavy involvement in ministry and their religious Sunday faces gives the impression that they are good husbands. Meanwhile their…More
